Derek Notman is a founder, entrepreneur, and devoted dad helping fathers lead with purpose at home and work. He co-authored REBL Dad after interviewing 100 fathers worldwide. H. Adam Holt is the CEO and Founder of Asset-Map, a WealthTech firm simplifying financial planning visually, and Co-founder of REBL Dads.

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Guest Resources

REBL Dads Website – REBL Dads is a global movement empowering intentional fathers. Master leadership at home, work, and beyond with REBL Dads.

REBL Dad Book – What 100+ Fathers reveal about successful leadership at home and work.

3 Value Bombs

1. Success without alignment isn’t success, true fulfillment comes when your business achievements match your priorities at home and in life.

2. Regrets leave clues. The mistakes fathers make often become their greatest teachers for becoming better leaders and better dads.

3. Success and fatherhood are not competing priorities. The greatest legacy you leave is not your company, title, or net worth, it’s whether your children felt your presence and love.

Show Notes

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Today’s Audio MASTERCLASS: What 100+ Fathers Reveal About Successful Leadership at Home and Work

[01:37] – What do you believe about becoming successful that most people disagree with?

Success without alignment really isn’t success.
Society measures success through revenue, titles, followers, and wealth.
The most fulfilled fathers aligned their actions with their priorities.
Financial rewards often became the byproduct, not the goal.

[02:58] – Why are so many high-achieving fathers winning in business but feeling disconnected at home?

Many men lost community and connection following the pandemic.
Entrepreneurship can become an easy place to hide from deeper challenges.
Loneliness is becoming increasingly common among fathers.
Building success without support systems creates hidden costs.

[07:07] – How did REBL Dads begin?

Derek struggled to balance entrepreneurship and fatherhood simultaneously.
He searched for a community of like-minded fathers but couldn’t find one.
A bold pitch to Richard Branson led to fatherhood events on Necker Island.
The movement eventually grew into a book, community, and global mission.

[08:39] – What were the biggest lessons from interviewing more than 100 fathers?

Fathers consistently craved authentic community and connection.
Shared experiences created breakthroughs, friendships, and vulnerability.
The interviews uncovered common themes regardless of geography or profession.
The project evolved into a global study of intentional fatherhood.

[10:57] – What surprising insight emerged from these conversations?

Regrets leave clues.
Fathers learned as much from mistakes as from successes.
Perfection was never the goal.
Growth came through reflection, adjustment, and increased presence.

[11:48] – A timeout to thank our sponsors!

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[13:37] – What are the 7 Pillars of Intentional Fatherhood?

Intentional Presence – How you show up matters.
Bonding Through Shared Experiences – Create memories and traditions.
Creating Trusted Space – Build environments where children feel safe sharing.
Learning Through Exposure – Introduce kids to different cultures and experiences.
Act Now, Not Later – Stop waiting for the perfect time.
Identity and Integrity – Live and model family values.
Intentional Legacy – Pass on values, resourcefulness, and character.

[16:25] – What was the most memorable lesson from extraordinary fathers?

Richard Branson emphasized allowing children to fail.
Resilience develops when kids learn through mistakes.
Parents should resist the urge to “bubble wrap” their children.
Small traditions, like weekly one-on-one breakfasts, often have lasting impact.

[18:51] – What mindset separated the most intentional fathers?

They aligned their mindset, actions, and intentions.
They lived purposefully rather than reactively.
Intentionality showed up in both leadership and parenting.
Great fathers consistently chose how they wanted to show up.

[20:55] – What challenge concerns fathers most today?

Finding the right balance between digital and analog life.
Children are growing up surrounded by screens and social media.
Parents must model the behavior they want their children to adopt.
Kids are always watching and learning from our actions.

[22:51] – What is the biggest takeaway for Fire Nation?

Success and fatherhood do not need to compete.
Your children won’t remember your follower count or net worth.
They will remember whether you showed up.
The greatest legacy is being present, loving, and intentional.

[24:10] – How can Fire Nation connect with you?

REBL Dads Website – REBL Dads is a global movement empowering intentional fathers. Master leadership at home, work, and beyond with REBL Dads.
REBL Dad Book – What 100+ Fathers reveal about successful leadership at home and work.

[26:00] – Thank you to our Sponsors!

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