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Mary Fran Bontempo and Kristin Smedley know their brilliance. But they didn’t always. Both Kristin and Mary Fran know what it feels like to be sucker punched by life. But they refuse to let those sucker punches define them. Together they created Brilliantly Resilient – a show, podcast, program and now a book to teach others how to Reset, Rise and Reveal their Brilliance to the world!
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3 Value Bombs
1) Do not be married to outcomes. There’s always going to be something that pushes you off course, but the beauty is there’s also opportunity in that.
2) When you are executing your brilliance, everything is aligned and you’re feeling good. But don’t assume that it will get you to exactly where you want to go.
3) There are core values in how you live your life – once you align the things you do with your core values, then exponential success happens.
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Today’s Audio MASTERCLASS: How to be Brilliantly Resilient After Life’s Sucker Punches.
[1:26] – Mary Fran and Kristin shares something about being successful that most people disagree with.
- Great success is really a combination of small steps consistently executed overtime – not one huge thing.
- One person can be the catalyst.
[2:40] – Where did Brilliantly Resilient originate?
- Brilliantly Resilient is when you get hit with a sucker punch, get hurt, but you do not get knocked out.
[4:32] – The first of the three parts of Brilliantly Resilient is Reset.
- It is the part where you find yourself laying on the ground, looking up the sky, thinking “What the heck just happened?”
- Inherent resilience is something that’s in you. You were born with it.
- There are core values in how you live your life, and once you aligne the things you do to your core values, then exponential success happens.
[9:28] – The second of the three parts of Brilliantly Resilient is Rise.
- Look at what you can actually do. It’s all about the action steps.
- Know what your resources are, what your skillset is, and who the people in your tribe are.
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[17:00] – The third of the three parts of Brilliantly Resilient is Revealing your brilliance.
- The beauty of your brilliance is that it’s not hard for you. Most people don’t know how to uncover it and use it in a way that can move them forward today.
- Uncover how you can fascinate the world, and know what skills and talents you have.
[21:32] – Share some practical applications of being Brilliantly Resilient.
- When you uncover your brilliance you find your unique gifts, your unique take on the world, and the unique way you can serve people.
- When you deep-dive into your brilliance, you’ll stand out and be the person that everyone thinks of.
[24:52] – Mary Fran’s key takeaway.
- Do not be married to outcomes. There’s always going to be something that will push you off course, but the beauty of that is there’s also opportunity there.
- When you are executing your brilliance everything is aligned and you’re feeling good. But don’t assume that it will get you to exactly where you want to go.
[27:23] – Kristin’s key takeaway.
- If you hang on to outcomes too tight, then you’ll run into so many blocks and get knocked out and not get back up.
[29:10] – Mary Fran and Kristin’s call to action for Fire Nation!
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Lights that spark fire nation. JLD here with an audio masterclass on how to be brilliantly resilient after life's sucker punches to drop these value bombs. I have brought Mary Fran, Bon tempo and Kristin smelly on the mic because they know their brilliance, but they didn't always both Kris and Mary Fran know what it feels like to be sucker punched by life, but they refused to let those sucker punches define them together. They created brilliantly resilience, a show podcast program, and now a book to teach others how to reset, rise, and reveal their brilliance to the world.
In foundation. We'll talk about how brilliantly resilience originated. The three parts that it consists of reset rise and reveal your brilliance as well as some practical applications of being brilliantly resilient in so much more. When we get back from thinking our sponsors ready to launch and sell your online course, then you need to tune in for amplify 2021. With Thinkific this free jam packed event produced by our friends at Thinkific. We'll bring together 20 plus international course creation experts to share their behind the scenes tips and strategies to get you on the fast track to launching a course that will sell, visit thinkific.com/amplify to RSVP today.
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1 (2m 1s):
You know, I think most people feel that great success has to happen in a big, huge way. When in fact it's really the combination of small steps consistently executed over time that can lead to this amazing success. You have to not ignore the little stuff, right?
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Boom value bomb, which is why fire nation. I always talk about the books, the slight edge by Jeff Olson and the compound effect by Darren Hardy. They really emphasize this so powerfully. What do you got Kristen?
1 (2m 32s):
What's up fire nation, bring in the heat with this one. So most people think that one person cannot make a difference and move all the mountains to success. But I believe one person can be a catalyst to do all of that and bring in a few extra things that we're actually going to dive into today.
0 (2m 51s):
Boom, fire nation to value bombs in one. And as I mentioned in the introduction, we're talking about how to be brilliantly resilient after life's sucker punches, and we've all gotten those sucker punches over the years, fire nation. And let's start with Kristin, where specifically did brilliantly resilient originates.
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First of all, when you're brilliantly resilient, it's it's when, like you said, John, you get hit with a sucker punch and brilliantly resilient. People will be stunned, maybe even knocked down ouch, but they're not knocked out. And, and Mary Fran and I have been sucker punched over and over again in life. And then we came together by, well, you might say by accident, but we know that the universe kind of aligns things for us, right? And when we started talking, we realized that both of us had gotten knocked down, not knocked out. And we each had things that we, we did that were similar or exactly the same to reset our mindset in our lives rise with some really special parts of the formula.
2 (3m 60s):
And then the key, we found that our skills and talents our brilliance, if you will just charted us on this whole new trajectory, that we did incredible things because of those sucker punches, it was pretty extraordinary
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And fire nation. And one thing that I've really been diving into a lot recently is stoicism. And, you know, the whole philosophy behind that is doing what you can, where you are with what you have, because listen, if we're going to dwell on the past and we're going to like look at our past soccer punches, like, and, and just like, let that dictate our future, then what kind of future do we have? I mean, yes. Is it great to learn from our past mistakes in our past soccer punches? Absolutely. To maybe adjust pivots going forward in the future, but at the same time, it's like let's be in the here and the now, and let's be brilliantly resilience after the sucker punches in a positive way going forward. And what I love, what you two have done together is you've taken brilliantly resilient and you've broken it out into three very specific parts, which are reset, rise and reveal your brilliance.
0 (5m 6s):
And I really want to go through these three parts right now in a very chronological way. So Mary Fran, why don't you start us off by talking about reset?
2 (5m 17s):
The reset is this part where you kind of find yourself suddenly laying on the ground, looking up at the sky, going what the heck just happened. The reset is what happens when you get this sucker punch, whatever it may be. And it can be personal, it can be professional. You know, we don't, we don't judge over here. It can just be kind of being pecked to death by the little things of life, you know? So whatever you are sucker punch or train wreck would be, that's the part where you get to reset. And that is the part where your inherent, and this is key inherent resilience comes in. You know, we hear so about resilience these
1 (5m 58s):
Days, and everybody thinks that it's this kind of nebulous thing that's out there that they don't have it's in you, you were born with it. So when we talk about the reset, it is resetting with resilience that you already have. You know, when you were, you were a kid, you, you, you learn to walk by continually failing, but you didn't name it that at the time. So, you know, it's, there, it's something that we can immediately rely on. And with the reset, we have a couple of things that we talk about. We talk about a value system, which is hugely important. We talk about your perspective and we talk about controlling the controllables, but the values piece is the one that I think we want to focus on right now.
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Yeah. Yeah. And I'll actually, if I can give a quick story with my own sucker punch, I was, I had fully planned my life out. If you have listeners out there that are checking those boxes every day and you get a real thrill from that. And I got hit with my first two, babies were born blind. That was nowhere in my preparation. But what I learned is it was the, my perception of blindness was the block in our life, not blindness itself. If you can imagine it was how I was looking at it in terms of devastation, upsetment fear. And when I changed my perception, then my boys and I, and my sight of daughters started on a trajectory of, you know, allowing them to achieve the greatness they were destined for.
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But what happened to me personally, in my own work and business and launching a nonprofit and the meeting up with Mary Fran and doing brilliantly resilient is there were some core values in, in how I live my life. That once I aligned my parenting, my business, my nonprofit to those core values, then the exponential success started. And, you know, core values are actually so important for you to establish, which I never would've thought this before. I, I really sat and studied it, but it is so important that there was actually an episode of EO fire in December that was dedicated to core values. That they're that important.
2 (8m 7s):
And I think Mary Fran has a few more things to add on, on values.
1 (8m 11s):
Yeah. I mean, one of the things that I think is so profound is that these giant sucker punches, they knock you for such a loop that it takes so much away from you. It takes away your plans. It takes away your goals. It takes away your purpose, but it takes away your identity. You know, you define yourself in a certain way. And then something happens. I found out on mother's day of 2010 that my son was a heroin addict. I mean, up to that point, I had an idea of who I was and where I fit in the world and where I was going to go in that moment, all of that disappears. But when you dig deep in those moments and when you're flat on your back, that's when you get to do it, you dig deep and figure out what your core are.
1 (8m 56s):
That's the beginning of your foundation for every rise that comes after that.
0 (9m 0s):
So there's a lot of powerful things that these ladies shared fire nation. I mean, one thing that I just really honed in on for any number of reasons is the phrase that Mary Fran used, which is controlling the controllables. And to me, that's actually a very comforting phrase because listen to things that are outside of our control, I mean, what are we really going to be stressing out about? I mean, let's be honest, Kristen didn't have within her control, what happened when her children were born blind, but what does she then shift to after that initial, you know, struggle and shock? Well, she shifted to controlling the controllables and now she has a non-profit. Now she's moving forward with this. Now she has such a better understanding because she just said, you know what? I'm going to sit here and this moment, and I'm going to control what I can control these controllable variables.
0 (9m 43s):
So there's a lot to be thought about under this reset section and, you know, fire nation, we may be kind of dipping back into these as we proceed forward, but the next part is rise. So Mary Fran, what do we have with this section
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In the rise you want to look at? And again, as you said, JLD all of this stuff kind of works together in the rise. You want to look at what you can actually do. And this is not living in the land of magical thinking here. This is, you know, what we want and, and what we can do are often very different things, but the things that help you figure out what you can do, the rise is all about the action step, but the things that go into that, or what are your resources, what is your skillset? And the big one for us is who is in your tribe. And, you know, very often when we think of our tribe, we think of what Kristen calls the ride or die folks.
1 (10m 42s):
You know, the ones who are with you, your first level contacts, who are your biggest cheerleaders. And while those are the people that you definitely need in your tribe, they are not always the ones who are going to help you rise, because they're often the ones who want to stroke your head and say, poor baby. When sometimes what you really need is a kick in the butt where somebody who's got a better or a resource that is not within your immediate tribe. So we really encourage people to expand that tribe so you can figure out what your action step is going to be. Cause it's all about the action.
2 (11m 18s):
Yeah. And you know, in, in terms of, of building a try, which is one of my most favorite things to do, because I had no idea how to raise a blind child. I had no idea how to start a nonprofit or, or get, I got involved in a tech startup. I had no idea how to do a lot of the things that I do now, but I went and found folks that were one step ahead of me, 10 steps ahead of me. And in all of that, building that tribe, then I honed in on folks like, you know, the, the principle of the mastermind, right? Having folks around you that are, that are gonna help you and hold you to succeed. And one thing that I realized, Oh, Mary Fran actually pointed this out in something, in a program that we were doing for folks the other day, is that a tribe?
2 (12m 2s):
You know, she said about resources, that that's part of the rise, but a tribe helps you grow your resources exponentially. I mean, look at fire nation. I've been a part of fire nation for years, and I've learned so much about all this stuff. You know, all the steps to success that I've had now from this tribe and connecting with folks and listening to the speaker. So a tribe can come in many different forms, but especially what we really want to hone in on is what Mary Fran said, that it is not always those folks that are just going to hold your hand and say, well, you're a great, you're a great person. That's great that you got up today. You know, some of them like Mary Fran, that she does to me, you have to have to kick you in the pants and say, come on, you've got this, you know, you can do this and here's how you're going to take a step forward.
2 (12m 49s):
But, and we even, we, you know, we were talking in, in our coaching program with this woman that is very successful and she couldn't figure out her next step. And, and within just a, a bit of time talking with her about her core values for her tribe and who is in her tribe and how she wants to serve them. She unblocked and is headed for incredible stuff this year. The tribe is so important to surround yourself with. And then, you know, linking back to, to the reset of aligning your values with how you're going to serve
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Fire nation. I've interviewed over 3000 successful entrepreneurs. And, you know, I, I've learned a lot over the times, of course, and, and Kris and I, I really appreciate you mentioning multiple times that you've consumed a lot of that content as well, because this is why we do these things, but what I've learned and what people like Mary Fran and Kristen have learned, and you fire nation I've learned is there are very specific variables and commonalities to success. And what are a couple of those things? Number one, like having the right mentor, like actually having somebody who is currently where you want to be like, you know, Kristen shared one step ahead, 10 steps ahead. Like, is that person currently where you want to be, that person is going to be able to guide you in that direction. They're going to be, to show you what things to avoid, you know, fast forward buttons to push, you know, things not to do, because they've done those things incorrectly or the flip side of that things to do and focus on cause they actually work.
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And then just that other thing, being part of a mastermind, being part of an accountability group, people who you actually know, like trust and respect so that when you say you're going to do something a, you want to do that thing cause you don't want to let them down and be, you know that if you try to stop doing that thing, they're not gonna let you stop doing that thing. Or they're not, they're not going to let you let yourself down. These are key key components to success in your journey. And when we get backfire nation from taking our sponsors, we're gonna be talking about revealing your brilliance. Step three of three, for a lot of us, our home is now more than just our home for some of us that has become a classroom for our kids and office, for our or a yoga studio for our workouts.
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This third part of the reset rise and reveal your brilliance, Mary Fran reveal your brilliance, break it down for us.
1 (17m 6s):
So here's my very first. Thank you, Jesus moment. Your brilliance is not hard, at least not for you, Kristen. And I often say we are doctors of nothing, and we do not believe in copious amounts of blood, sweat, and tears. We did that already. We did the blood, sweat and tears part. So what you need to understand about your brilliance is again like resilience. It is an inherent part of you. The problem with, again, most people who are starting an enterprise, whatever of course it's work. Of course it's tough, but we tend to think everything has to be tough.
1 (17m 47s):
And the beauty of your brilliance is that it is not hard for you, but most people don't know how to uncover it and to use it. And this is where, one of the things that we talk about with your transferable skillset, this is how you can bring your brilliance to what you're doing now and to what your, you know, your business enterprise, your personal issues, whatever your transferable skillset, Krista and I both have backgrounds as teachers. And while we are not teaching in a traditional classroom, all of that skillset was brought to bear in what we're doing now in the Ted, in the TEDx talks that we both did and the books that we've written, all of that stuff was already in there in our inherent brilliance.
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We just had to figure out how to use it in a way that could move us forward today.
2 (18m 40s):
Yeah. You know, in terms of brilliance, like, like Mary Fran said we were, we were teachers and I kept thinking to myself, you know, how does, how does a really good third grade teacher, which is what I was and had planned to be take on starting a nonprofit for a rare disease that no one ever heard of and move it forward to get to clinical trials in record time that everybody said that's crazy. And I actually had somebody that said to me very early on and embarrassed me in front of a lot of people and said, he said that cute little mom thinks that she's going to make a dent in this field of vision research that sucker punched my heart and my gut, my brain, everything right. But I kept on going and going through this process.
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And then only six years later, he and I were at the same FDA meeting. 12 people invited in the world to testify on behalf of the first ever treatment for blindness. And he and I were of that 12 giving speeches to get that approved. I mean, that's the power of, I had to go through a journey and uncover my brilliance and then stick to that, keep that in my mind of what my gifts and talents were. And you know, it's funny. You probably remember I'm you probably know Sally Hogshead. Lot of fascinate love her. I did her one of her challenges and it was, you know, on basically uncovering how you can fascinate in the world, what your skills and talents are.
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And, and, and mine came out as the people's champion. I have kept that in my mind and utilize the skills within me that align with that as the people's champion, you know, the champion for the blind community, assistive tech community, all that kind of stuff. And that's carried me, but that that's all stuff like Mary Fran said I had in me already, look, you guys, I was exhausted wanting to go learn new skills. I'm too tired. I'm going to be 50. Who wants time? Who has time for that? It's all stuff you already have. And then you just channel it in a new direction,
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Your brilliance, fire nation. It's an inherent part of you. Like I loved when Mary Fran broke that down, like to me, it was just, yeah, it is. It's an all of you fire nation. And the sad thing is a lot of people don't even think that they possess brilliance, but the reality is you're wrong. It's just, you don't know exactly what that brilliance is. And that's where Mary Fran and Kristen, they share this process of uncovering your brilliance so that you can share it with the world. Just like, you know, Kris and recognized the fact, Hey, I'm a people's champion. Like I'm going to be a champion for others. This is my brilliance. Let me move forward in this process. So please remember that fire nation, your brilliance is an inherent part of you.
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So as we kind of went through those reset rise in reveal your brilliance parts, Kristen, let's talk about some practical applications of being brilliantly resilient. Yeah.
2 (21m 35s):
So I love that, that you bring this into at JLD because it's important to, there's great to have this philosophy and a formula and all that, but if you don't know that it actually works in real life and how to do it, then what's it worth, right? So, so interestingly enough, Mary Fran and I are our products of this formula together. Look, we started the brilliantly resilient journey as a world tour on live speaking stages. And we were about one event in and the world shut down in 2020 with the pandemic. And then we decided to turn on our video. We knew how to do video on Facebook and social media and started a daily show, just helping people uncover their reveal, resilience and brilliance.
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And we started meeting business owners, non-profit leaders, the creator of Pictionary, like all kinds of people JLD can you came on the show and were brilliant. And we started learning that it is, these principles really do apply. And I will say this before we start to deep dive into it. If you follow Seth Godin, which I know that you do JLD and if your listeners do, you know, he talks about purple cow, standing out, like it's really about your story and standing out. And that's what, when you uncover your brilliance, that's what you do. You be, you find your unique gifts, your unique take on the world, your unique way that you're going to serve people.
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And you just, by default doing that stand out. We had a, we had a guest on our show. That's local to our Philly community that we hadn't met before. And she had an in-person gym, right? Well, during the pandemic, all of that was one of the first things to go that people couldn't go into a gym. And her thing when she was on our show, she said her core value was community. And she was going to serve her community no matter what. And she came up with all kinds of stuff online and offline and not being in person and following all the safety rules. She was more successful in the pandemic than any other gym than she had ever been.
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And she got so successful with the way that she, if you want to use the word pivot, Mary Fran doesn't like that word, but I'm going to use it anyway. If you use the word pivot, because she went through this formula and applied everything, she ended up closing the brick and mortar because she's more successful with everything else that came along. And she stood out. I mean like this beacon in her, in her niche here in, in the town of Philly and, and gained a ton of success from that. So, so the point is that when you really deep dive and we have, we can talk about it later, what we're offering to help you uncover your brilliance. But once you do that, that is how you, how you stand out and do all the things that you're trying to do to be the one person everybody thinks of in your niche.
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It's your brilliance that gets you there.
0 (24m 36s):
So Mary Fran, I also want to hear from you as far as any practical and personal applications you've seen about being brilliantly resilient, anything you want to add to Kris's story about what she talked about, and then also give us one massive take with you want to make sure fire nation gets from everything that you've talked about today. And of course, Kris, and you can be kind of brewing on your big takeaway as well while Mary Frans chatting. And then we will move into that amazing giveaway you guys have for fire.
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I think I'm going to hit you with my huge takeaway first, because it is so much a part of everything that we talk about. And the takeaway is this do not be married to outcomes. Whenever we have a plan, whether it's a business plan, a personal plan or whatever, you know, you want it to work. Of course you do. You want everything to go exactly the way you want it to go. But like how many times does that actually happened? I mean, I wish I could see everyone who's listening to this right now, because I would want the people that, that actually happened for to raise their hand so I can become their followers because it never happens. There's always something that sets you off course.
1 (25m 47s):
But the beauty of that is there is also opportunity in that. So when you work this process, when you align, figure out what your values are, that is so important. When you figure out what your values are, when you control what you can control and stay out of the land of magical thinking. When you Institute an action step and surround yourself with the tribe, you will move forward in this place of brilliance. The brilliance feels good when you are executing your brilliance, everything is aligned and you're feeling good. But the key is don't assume that that's going to just get you exactly where you want to go, because everything that's happened with Kristin and I was so not part of the plan.
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Like we just, we, I don't want to say we fell into this because we, we intently and intentionally took steps to make good things happen. But the truth of the matter is we didn't always know where they were going to end up. So you have to be willing to, and I'll go with the pivot word. I usually like it, it reminds me of sweat and basketball. I don't like to sweat, but I'll go with that word because you have to be willing to do that. The practical applications of this are following those steps and, and really believing in your values in this system. And then relying on your inherent resilience and your brilliance will get you where you want to go. As long as you're not married to that.
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Cause that's like running into a brick wall. If you get married to an outcome, be willing to pivot and
0 (27m 20s):
Wow, Kris and I would not want to have to follow that, but you're going to have to so best of luck,
2 (27m 25s):
I know, right? Your friends always upstaged me. It was all I told her. She's the one that can deliver the value. She drops the value bombs all over my life, but I will say I have to, I do have to admit. And, and I'm glad that Mary Fran can't see my face right now because I'm laughing so hard. And I have my right hand up that I, I, she converted me this year in, in the year that we've had together. She has converted me to not being married to outcomes because JLD, I gotta tell you, I realized looking back on my nearly 50 years on this planet, I have always been stuck because of those outcomes because of checking those boxes, you know, I'm a Virgo.
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I like to have things all lined up. I want to see the finish line. And I mean, it was so bad. I couldn't move on with blindness because I wanted my kids to be the, the quarterback and the pitcher of baseball. Right. I couldn't move on from divorce because I wanted the 50th wedding anniversary. You know, when you let go of those outcomes. Sure. You know, we Virgos and overachievers and whatnot. We certainly do this process and we plan and we give it all we got and use your skills and talents and go for it overachieve. However, it's those outcomes. If you, if you hang on to that so tight, you are gonna run into so many blocks that you you're gonna get knocked out.
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You're not just going to be stunned or knocked down. You get knocked out and can't get back up. So I got it. I got to get married, Fran, her props there. She converted me this year on the outcome thing. And it has freed me to go out and take the action steps and uncover and utilize my brilliance in this world.
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All right, Mary Fran, Kristin, you guys have a pretty awesome and pretty unique opportunity for everybody listening today. Who's saying, you know what? I have some, I have some brilliance deep inside me or bubbling on the surface. And I just need a little bit of focus, a little bit of help, a little bit of direction, a little bit of this awesomeness. So Mary Fran, take it away.
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The thing again that we want to emphasize, your brilliance is not hard. It is something that is within you and this whole idea that we've all been talking about with the resilience, the resilience piece, and the brilliance hand in hand, you're gonna have sucker punches. You're gonna get knocked down, but when you rely on that inherent resilience, and this is key, you move, you don't want to stand there and be a human punching bag and just keep waiting for the next hits when you move and figure out what your value system is and take advantage of being at your lowest point. Take advantage of that and rebuild with the strongest foundation. You possibly can recognize what your happy place is.
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Your brilliance can be found in your happy place. And then you figure out how to transfer that into the things that you want to create, build into your work, into your personal life. And, you know, I just took just to really drive home how important this whole idea of combining resilience and brilliance is. I know Kristen has something that she wants to share, that somebody was gracious enough to put in our book. And I know Kristen wants to talk about that. So I'm going to turn that over to her,
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Did you see what we did there, Jay tied that in perfectly?
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Yes, you were brilliant. And you know, I do want to say, in addition to the brilliant challenge, we have a free, a freebie, totally freebie, a 15 minute call. If you want to get on the line with us, you can jump over to our website at brilliantlyresilient.net and sign up for a free 15 minute call. We have been counseling people all over the place. And in England, we had somebody the other day in upstate New York and can it all over the place. And just those 15 minutes where you get the perspective of the two of us and we help you kind of clear out and just hone in on what that value system is and what your brilliance is. I can't say how important it is to, to S to get different eyes on what situation is it always helps.
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Sign up for your free 15 minute call. If you're thinking, Hey, this discover your brilliance challenge sounds interesting. And I get a hundred dollar discounts just by using promo code fire. You know, maybe bring it up in the 15 minute call to see if you are the right fit for this challenge, and maybe get some more details about it. Like that could be a good use of your time, as well as starting the process of uncovering your own brilliance. And that's over at brilliantlyresilient.net/discover. So remember, if you do go forward with that challenge, you're going to get it down from one 47 to 47 with promo code fire, brilliantlyresilient.net, Mary Fran, Kristin, I just want to say thank you for sharing your truth, your knowledge, your value bombs, the fire nation today for that we salute you and we'll catch you on the flip side.
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