Valerie Jones is the author of The Selfish Year and host of The Selfish Woman podcast. She is redefining the word ‘selfish’ for a generation of women by helping them stop abandoning themselves and build lives that feel as good as they look.

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Guest Resources

The Society – Receive one free month to experience the community and begin their own journey toward self-connection.

The Selfish Year – Grab a copy of Valerie’s book on Amazon.

The Selfish Women Podcast – Check out Valerie’s podcast.

Valerie Jones Website – Valerie invites listeners to join The Society, her online Circle community for women.

3 Value Bombs

1. Extraordinary success starts with your relationship with yourself, lasting fulfillment comes from self-connection.

2. Overthinking is a self-trust problem, confidence grows through action, not endless analysis.

3. Caring for yourself first gives you the energy to serve others with joy instead of exhaustion.

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Show Notes

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Today’s Audio MASTERCLASS: Why Selfish Women Are More Successful

[1:03] – Valerie shares something she believes about becoming successful that most people disagree with.

• She explains that many women have been conditioned to believe success requires endless self-sacrifice.
• While serving others is valuable, ignoring your own needs ultimately leads to burnout.
• Sustainable success begins with cultivating a healthy relationship with yourself.

[2:24] – Valerie tells why so many high-achieving women are rewarded for abandoning themselves.

• Self-abandonment often develops unconsciously through lifelong conditioning.
• Women are praised for always saying yes, putting others first, and overextending themselves.
• External success can mask internal exhaustion until burnout eventually surfaces.

[4:33] – Valerie talks about what led her to commit to her “Selfish Year,” and how did it transform her life.

• She shares how years of people-pleasing culminated in emotional exhaustion despite outward success.
• Choosing “selfish” as her word of the year challenged everything she believed about herself.
• That decision launched a journey of healing, self-discovery, and creating a life aligned with her true values.

[9:06] – Valerie tells why she believes overthinking is a self-trust problem.

• Overthinking occurs when people seek certainty before taking action.
• Trust develops through experience rather than endless mental analysis.
• Progress comes from experimenting, making mistakes, learning, and building confidence through action.

[13:13] – A timeout to thank our sponsors.

[16:26] – Valerie talks about how “good girl” conditioning keep women trapped in people-pleasing and burnout.

• Childhood programming teaches many women that being loved means always making others comfortable.
• Constantly saying yes creates unrealistic expectations while disconnecting women from their authentic needs.
• Breaking these patterns requires recognizing subconscious beliefs that drive self-sacrifice.

[19:43] – Valerie tells why she believes being selfish is actually the antidote to self-abandonment.

• She redefines selfishness as including yourself in your own priorities rather than excluding others.
• Giving from abundance creates healthier relationships than giving from depletion.
• Strong boundaries allow women to honor themselves while serving others from a place of joy and fulfillment.

[24:04] – Call to action.

• The Society – Receive one free month to experience the community and begin their own journey toward self-connection.
• The Selfish Year – Grab a copy of Valerie’s book on Amazon.
• The Selfish Women Podcast – Check out Valerie’s podcast.
• Valerie Jones Website – Valerie invites listeners to join The Society, her online Circle community for women.
• Members receive support, education, networking opportunities, and tools for personal transformation.

[26:01] – Thank you to our Sponsors!

• Hotworx: The #1 boutique fitness franchise with 850 plus locations! With recurring membership revenue, a low-labor, high-tech model, and a proven franchise system, entrepreneurs gain a scalable business built for growth. Visit Hotworx.net/franchising to learn more!
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Killer Resources!

1) The Common Path to Uncommon Success: JLD’s 1st traditionally published book! Over 3000 interviews with the world’s most successful Entrepreneurs compiled into a 17-step roadmap to financial freedom and fulfillment!

2) Free Podcast Course: Learn from JLD how to create and launch your podcast!

3) Podcasters’ Paradise: The #1 podcasting community in the world!

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